Over the last few days I have been thinking a lot about relationships and what a healthy relationship is and trying to figure out what is it that makes a difference. Indeed, my thoughts almost always came down to one question "Is there something wrong with me?" So, I started comparing myself to other girls around me and guess what? there was always someone prettier, smarter, successful, etc. and there always will be. I thought well maybe that means "relationships are not for me" and then I started once again comparing myself to other girls and this time I looked closer: all girls experience the same at some point in their lives. Whether they have just started dating, been engaged, had long term relationship, been in long distance-relationship, you name it, at least once in their lives they have shared my thoughts. So then I thought, maybe it is about the men that I chose to be with. Maybe I am making the wrong choice. And then it hit me: why is it that I think that the problem is with me? It is about self value and self appreciation. Self doubt and fear of not being enough will kill you inside and the man will just walk away feeling you more unhappy than ever. If you are reading this, remember you are worth way more than this.
Stop for a moment and take a breath and now think about it. No matter what you like like (blond, brunette, blue eyed, grey eyed, skinny, curvy, etc.) and no matter where you come from, you should know that you are unique in your own way and that a man should consider himself lucky to stand by your side. You should not compare yourself to anyone else in the room, because a man who sees your value will not look different way and seek something more. The more confident you are in YOU, the more attractive you will be.
Men come and go but your self confidence should never fade. Yes, we face situations in which sometimes we want to feel weak and be comforted by a loved one. The difference is, you do not ask for comfort - the right man will see it in your eyes. Just like you do not ask for love - the right person will show you their love every single day. The right person will never make you doubt yourself and will only inspire the confidence in you.