In the last couple of weeks, I have come upon an observation that we take relationships and matters of heart, well, way too close to heart. It is the truth universally acknowledge that the simpler we are and the less we look for love, the more unexpectedly it finds us. That being said, there is nothing wrong with being playful and playing the field until you find someone you are feeling your best with. That's right, you are not looking for someone to complete you, this is an illusion. You are looking for someone who brings out the best in you and accepts you at your worst, and someone you are happy to accept when they are at their lowest point and encourage them to be a better person.
Someone once said that it is not necessarily the person that makes your knees weak, and your palms all sweaty that will be your THE ONE. It is the person that you are most comfortable and calm with, the person that makes your bad day better and with whom breakfast is just that much more delicious. It is someone that you enjoy waking up to and saying goodnight too - first thought in the morning and last thought at night.
So, many of us out there start questioning love and how it works, and start thinking why is it that they cannot find someone in the world full of options. Some people start overthinking the matter to the point that they want to change countries - I am one of those people. I thought that relocation might be the answer to this unsolvable question. And yet, life has proven me wrong. Some people, overthink the matter that they become less confident in themselves and search for answers and want to dig deep until their questions are answered.
Social media and dating apps are only a brief momentary distraction, which for a second help us to see that not all hope is lost. They reinstate hope, at least for a one night stand, and they boost your confidence level, well at least for one night. Yet after that night is over - you are back to square one - questioning your own existence in pursuit of happiness. That is another mistake on our parts by the way, we think that our happiness depends on whether or not we are in a relationship. Well, remember, happiness is a state of mind, and it is the journey not the destination, so whether you are single or coupled up as long as you feel happy, that is all that matters.
Anyway, back to my original point: the pursuit for love should be simplified:
So no matter what you do, Keep It Simply, Stupid. Yes, in that order - simply and stupid and do not be afraid of being yourself. If you pretend to be someone else, how would someone notice your uniqueness and your awesomeness.