Today, I would like to talk about heartbreaks. Some of you are reading this and asking yourself "why did she pick a sad subject for today's post"? Well, that is precisely why. Breaking up is hard and depressing and we think that our world is crashing but then maybe we are so blinded by our momentary pain that we do not see the silver lining of the situation.
Every goodbye, and every heart break is a lesson that comes into our life when we need it most. Throughout any relationship you discover the person you are with and learn so much about yourself. The thing is that with time we grow, as people, and it may happen that you have outgrown your partner in one way or the other and although you still love them and probably always will love them, you cannot be together because it may be is not challenging anymore or you drive yourself towards something that your partner is not ready for yet.
Break ups are like mosquito bites. At first, you don't fully realise that this is happening, then you notice some irritation and then you try to get rid of this irritation, in a break up scenario this may be calling you ex when you should not, and then after a few days, you go back to normal like the break up never happened.
The thing is that I am thankful to all my exes and for everything they have taught me and for making me the person that I am today. I used to not believe in a potential friendship between exes and actually I still do not. If you are over - you are over - no looking back.
Those of you reading and knowing my life story must be thinking what a hypocrite. Well, it is different when you break up with someone you were never in a relationship to begin with. An almost relationship heartbreak is the worse. You were never together so you do not get to cry about the break up or dink up your sorrow because it was never exclusive, it is more like loosing a longterm crush. And yes, you can recover from this and still be on good terms with the person. Maybe on some strange level, this is called maturity.
Breaking up is never easy - but think about it: every break up brought you to a new person, a person you are probably seeing now or someone you are going to meet soon. I think that is positive because if there was no break up, you would not be who you are, you would not have met the person you are in love with today, you would still be making same mistakes as before and your life would be as steady as it could ever be. Every relationship has to evolve and progress at some point.
I also see heartbreaks as a sign from above protecting you from a possible future life that would not be good for you. Life has a way of figuring itself out and yes, sooner or later the right person will walk into your life and you will not have to go through a break up anymore, just trust yourself and trust life and learn from your past to create a better present.