Today, I have really been inspired and I wanted to share my thoughts with you on friendships. We go through various stages of our lives and make friends as we go along on the journey of life. Sadly, or as life would have it - we do not always get to stay in touch with the friends that we have made in elementary school, high school or even college. All we get is an occasional Facebook notification to congratulate XXX on their wedding or on a birth of a child. In some ways, this makes you re-asses your own life and makes you want to reconnect with the friends from your past to catch up and reminisce about the good old days.
However, there is that slight minority of people, with whom we stay in touch for years, decades and we know we will have each other in our lives no matter the distance nor the time zones. Being surrounded by friends is what keeps us going every day: having a shoulder to count on, someone who has our backs. If you have the circle of friends that you have created for yourself - appreciate them, do not hurt them and take care of them.
So, today, I would like to talk about friendship between men and women. The endless question is this even possible? In my 20 something years, I have been through this one too many times to know the challenges of such friendships.
So, as I am the walking example of relationship mishaps - I've been there as well. I've become friends with someone, who ironically today is a very close friend of mine, and when we became friends, for a moment there was a spark and we went for it. Yes, it was great while it lasted but then when it was over our friendship was a fly at risk - and for me to be able to keep up this friendship is a sign of maturity on both of our parts.
As someone wise once said, any kind of relationship should not be complicated, as soon as it gets weird or tense - turn the other way. And just as any relationship - friendships take time and effort and need to be maintained, it is a two way street so to speak.I am thankful to have the people in my life that I can call friends and thankful for all their support over the years.
The question remains however: what do you do if you are in the friendship - friend zone limbo? Do you act on your feelings and put the friendship at risk? Can you overcome the break up if that happens and still be friends? Do you have friends in common - would that have an impact on them? Or do you just screw everything to pieces and take a shot - because if you do not kiss the person you will never find out what you may be missing out on?
As a hopeless romantic, I would say go for it. And yet as someone who has been there, I would say boyfriends/girlfriends come and go and friends they stand by our side forever.
What inspired me to write about this? Well, I think that it is a subject of interest for many of us out there - I am myself in no way involved in any friendships of such kind, the past is in the past and the page must be turned over. You learn from your experience and keep only good memories for the future chapter of our lives, right?
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