It is now somewhat a cliché that any single girl out there has her own perfect checklist, which she uses to identify if a guy she met will suit her for a long lasting relationship. While the cliché has been ironised and portrayed in various lights in all of American romantic comedies, most of the girls would deny the fact that there is a list. Well, the thing is that we all understand that the less you plan for love, the more unexpectedly it will hit you; and yet we somehow hopelessly hope for something magical. Perhaps, the fairy tales are to blame for the idealistic image that we have in our heads, or perhaps, we live in the world with so much drama, trauma and bitterness that we just pray for something sweet in our lives. Ironically, though men might not have a checklist, they also have an idea in their head of the perfect woman, and yet some settle for the next best thing, perhaps out of safety? Also, I may be terribly wrong in my thinking, so please do not take this post by the letter.
So what happens if you meet your perfect person, or who you think is your perfect person but they are already a) taken b) interested in you but only for one thing and c) not interested at all. Do you give up? Do you keep searching? Do your friends try and re-assure you that he was not right for you? Or is it option d) you both thought you were a perfect match until the day one of you breaks the trust? The thing is that in all of the above cases no checklist is going to help to resolve the issue and most importantly help you regain the trust in another person.
For the longest time ever, I have been doubting myself after the events that have accumulated in my life, and have been thinking that there is no way of turning the page and being able to let someone fully into my life and to be able to trust again. I knowingly chose people that were in my life, who I knew would sooner or later hurt me. This would mean that the events turn out as expected and no dreams would be shuttered, well at least at a lower cost.
All things considered and circumstances being as they are, personally, I am not sure to be completed ready to trust someone again but it is work in progress of course. Right now, I am just trying to give myself some space and most importantly time to heal and redefine what is it that makes me happy and what kind of person would make me be the best version of me. It is true that if one day I meet someone, I'd like to become a big part of his life, motivate and inspire him and so that we can be best versions of ourselves when we are together or apart. This of course, goes back to my initial purpose in life of making a difference in someone's life and leaving a meaningful footprint.
Recently, I have been asked to share my list, well not particularly this list, because I have many, but I have been trying to avoid this. Now that I do not really have much to loose or regret, here goes my perfect checklist:
Also a short list of my weaknesses: