Life has a way of making everything work out just the way it should. It is strange because no matter how much we try to keep someone in our life and make them a forever person, life will guide us towards someone who is meant to stay in our lives forever. The common mistake we make is trying to make a temporary person stay in our life for as long as possible. The thing is that they will stay forever in our hearts but maybe will be oceans apart. We are meeting people at the time when we need them most. Some of them come into our lives as lovers and leave as strangers. Some of them teach us the most important lessons in our lives: teach you how to love, and then let go, how to be more confident and then betray you, and most importantly show you that what does not kill you makes you stronger. If someone wants to leave you, let them go. If they are your forever person, they will come back to you and you will meet them just so unexpectedly in a bar, or a cinema, or while you are walking your dog. Even if you are otherwise engaged or with someone, I believe that it will work out for you to be together. How do I know this? Well for starters, sometimes we meet our forever person and then drift apart and then years later find our way back to each other's heart. In the meantime, we may have been married, divorced, dated, raised kids - but when we meet each other in 10/20/30 years from now our hearts will still skip a beat when we see each other.
write me a letter for everyday we spend apart
write me a song that I could hear in my heart
write about the sunshine, about the sea
show me the world through your eyes, so that I see
take me to somewhere, where magic exists,
make an unexpected turn, a random twist
brighten up my day with your beautiful smile
help me forget my troubles, at least for a while
save me from the darkness of the unknown
save me from my fears of being alone
never regret the lost voice of my prayer
come into my life like a breath of fresh air
write me a letter or write me song
something nice and easy so I can sing along
be the melody that feeds my heart
never let me know the feeling of us being apart
Over the last few days I have been thinking a lot about relationships and what a healthy relationship is and trying to figure out what is it that makes a difference. Indeed, my thoughts almost always came down to one question "Is there something wrong with me?" So, I started comparing myself to other girls around me and guess what? there was always someone prettier, smarter, successful, etc. and there always will be. I thought well maybe that means "relationships are not for me" and then I started once again comparing myself to other girls and this time I looked closer: all girls experience the same at some point in their lives. Whether they have just started dating, been engaged, had long term relationship, been in long distance-relationship, you name it, at least once in their lives they have shared my thoughts. So then I thought, maybe it is about the men that I chose to be with. Maybe I am making the wrong choice. And then it hit me: why is it that I think that the problem is with me? It is about self value and self appreciation. Self doubt and fear of not being enough will kill you inside and the man will just walk away feeling you more unhappy than ever. If you are reading this, remember you are worth way more than this.
Stop for a moment and take a breath and now think about it. No matter what you like like (blond, brunette, blue eyed, grey eyed, skinny, curvy, etc.) and no matter where you come from, you should know that you are unique in your own way and that a man should consider himself lucky to stand by your side. You should not compare yourself to anyone else in the room, because a man who sees your value will not look different way and seek something more. The more confident you are in YOU, the more attractive you will be.
Men come and go but your self confidence should never fade. Yes, we face situations in which sometimes we want to feel weak and be comforted by a loved one. The difference is, you do not ask for comfort - the right man will see it in your eyes. Just like you do not ask for love - the right person will show you their love every single day. The right person will never make you doubt yourself and will only inspire the confidence in you.