We live in the world of digital dating and in the world of overthinking. Sometimes we try to find happiness so hard that we do not see what is right in front of us, and sometimes, the fear of commitment takes the best of us. At first I thought that this issue only exists in Switzerland, a country where the young people are relatively close and less outgoing, which makes it that much more difficult to meet someone in a bar, or at a party.
After having had a few conversations with my friends from all over the world, I figured it is not just a Swiss problem, but it is the generation of today. We find it easier to hide behind a dating app then to make contact in person for various reasons: if we get rejected - we do not have to face that person, we can just un-match, if we see that the conversation is not going well, we can just stop replying, well you get the picture.
Whilst the dating apps can be fun for a while, it may get boring or repetitive after a certain time. Honestly, out of several matches, I have probably agreed to 10 dates out of which there were only 3 that I actually went on. I hate to admit this, but I cancel often on the dates, not because the person is not interesting or what not - but simply because if I see that there is no spark or potential - I do not see the point going on any further. I still believe that in in-person contact and that when you meet your person, you know it, because you both feel it.
Anyway, as a single 26 year old, I have decided to write about the struggles that every 20 something might experience while being single, so here it goes:
The thing is that whether it is dating apps, meeting at work or at a bar, when you meet your person - you will know it right after. At the end of the day, it is the butterflies in your stomach, the little hearts in your eyes and the feeling of warmth that come over you when you look at the person you like and you know right away that they feel the same way. It is in the eyes of your partner, when you talk to him/her and you can feel that they are looking at you and smiling with their eyes. It is when in silence, you can still hear their laughter and feel comfortable with not saying anything - because it means so much to you to just hold hands and be together. So no matter the struggles, there is someone out there for everyone and maybe, we need to go and meet more than two people in our lives and maybe we need to go and make mistakes before we finally come to meet someone we get to call MY PERSON.