Some of you might wonder what happened, as I haven't written in a long while and all of a sudden boom one post after another. Well, I have heard it before that when one part of your life goes a-wall, the other part suddenly blossoms. I will leave this to your interpretation.
Today, I'd like us to talk about change. Heraclitus once wrote "The only thing that is constant is change", and although we recognise the truth in this - we struggle to accept it. Over the years we grow and develop our personalities, for better or for worse - let life be the judge of that. Yet we go through a life change, we meet different people on our way and we learn from such friendships, relationships, heart breaks, family reunions, career trial and errors and so on. We sometimes start on a journey to study one subject and halfway through realise that we are not made for this and change our mind. All of these decisions and things are absolutely normal, so why do we always doubt ourselves and are so reluctant to accept change?
Our life is not pre-set in stone and if we decide to go off trail for a while to pursue something else instead, than why not? At the end of the day if something is supposed to happen in your life it will and you might take a longer route to get there - but you will get there nonetheless. In your life, you will meet people that come to you with a temporary mission: to teach you something or to make you realise something and once the mission is complete, your lives will go separate ways. Sometimes we call this "outgrowing each other". Oh the number of times I have heard this phrase: "I have outgrown him." or "I feel like I have changed and he has not" - well it is not true because we all change and yes, some changes are more evident than others but the fact is that we all grow or alter our behaviour.
These changes are caused by our experiences, or behavioural patterns. In a healthy relationship with your significant other, you would ideally grow together: reach certain milestones together e.g. move in, have career promotions, or encourage each other to pursue the studies, decide to start a family, and so on - the list is endless. However, if a) we are unable to accept changes in our partners or support their new decisions and b) do not have the same timeline for events (he is ready to propose and you are still daydreaming about potential career paths and not ready for a family at all) - then you will be in a pickle.
At work, very often when a new strategy is introduced, you will always find people that are reluctant to accept the change. Why? Well why change something that is already working, right? In fact, you have to regard change as a possibility to make an improvement be it in processes or in yourself. Change is good and we have to learn to accept it regardless of what it may bring. Yes, it is scary because you do not know what is coming next - you are stepping outside of your comfort zone and you are entering the unknown. Just think about this for a moment though: what once was unknown, will soon become daily routine.