Reflecting back on my childhood/teenage years, I realised that being a "boarder" or a boarding school student helped me become who I am today and also made me grow up a lot faster than the other kids my age. Whilst my peers were busy with the high school drama and love stories, I was busy figuring out what am I to become and constantly trying not to let my parents down. I felt a lot of responsibility on my shoulders representing my family and graduating with the best grades. And when I was caught in detention or when my A-Levels came back with low grades - it was the end of the world for me. It felt like the entire world was crushing. My friends didn't share the same priorities.
Of course, it depends on your story line. How does one end up in a boarding school? In my case, it was to ensure my safety and give me a good solid education - both of which were achieved. I knew that my parents were there for me anytime I needed them and yet with time I grew accustomed to making my own choices, decisions and live the life I now have created. Of course, as a boarding student, you keep your emotions to yourself - if you feel upset or lonely, you only share that with your closest friends and for the rest of the world you put on a brave face and a smile. Like nothing happened.
For a very long time, I wanted to go back to my childhood back home and feel a kid again. And then that dream was replaced by flying away so far away that no one can reach me and start my life from scratch again. Honestly, sometimes that feeling is still there.
Your teenage years are different when you are at a boarding schools, you develop a strong will power and you encounter things like betrayal, dishonesty, heartbreak - earlier than your peers. You also learn a lot about confrontation and problem solving. Sometimes, you wish you were just a normal kid around your family.
You also start developing budgeting skills - as you have to learn how to control the money that you have and then remember that it is not yours in the first place. Living in a boarding schools you meet people from different cultures and your social awareness is much higher than that of your parents', sometimes.
And then that moment when you finally feel comfortable at school and with your friends you have to choose a pathway for yourself that will define you for the rest of your life - or so it may feel. Just like any child you family pushes you to choose what they consider the right pathway for you. I made the mistake of listening to them for various reasons. Do not get me wrong, at the end, I am more than happy with my choice, yet a part of me still thinks I had missed out by not choosing creative writing as my college major.
As a boarding school student, you grow up quicker than your peers. You see the world differently after that. Everything in life then becomes relative to you and you learn to keep your calm even in the strongest of storms.